Advice is seldom welcome; and those who want it the most always like it the least.
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In matters of religion and matrimony I never give any advice; because I will not have anybody's torments in this world or the next laid to my charge.
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The heart never grows better by age; I fear rather worse, always harder. A young liar will be an old one, and a young knave will only be a greater knave as he grows older.
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The scholar without good breeding is a nitpicker; the philosopher a cynic; the soldier a brute and everyone else disagreeable.
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Good breeding is the result of good sense, some good nature, and a little self-denial for the sake of others.
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To have frequent recourse to narrative betrays great want of imagination.
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Most maxim-mongers have preferred the prettiness to the justness of a thought, and the turn to the truth; but I have refused myself to everything that my own experience did not justify and confirm.
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Men will not believe because they will not broaden their minds.
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Let blockheads read what blockheads wrote.
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Buy good books, and read them; the best books are the commonest, and the last editions are always the best, if the editors are not blockheads.
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No man tastes pleasures truly, who does not earn them by previous business; and few people do business well, who do nothing else.
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Be your character what it will, it will be known; and nobody will take it upon your word.
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Character must be kept bright as well as clean.
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You must look into people, as well as at them.
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For my own part, I would rather be in company with a dead man than with an absent one; for if the dead man gives me no pleasure, at least he shows me no contempt; whereas the absent one, silently indeed, but very plainly, tells me that he does not think me worth his attention.
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Take the tone of the company you are in.
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Never hold anyone by the button or the hand in order to be heard out; for if people are unwilling to hear you, you had better hold your tongue than them.
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Custom has made dancing sometimes necessary for a young man; therefore mind it while you learn it, that you may learn to do it well, and not be ridiculous, though in a ridiculous act.
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Be wiser than other people, if you can; but do not tell them so.
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The only solid and lasting peace between a man and his wife is, doubtless, a separation.
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Any affectation whatsoever in dress implies, in my mind, a flaw in the understanding.
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The difference between a man of sense and a fop is that the fop values himself upon his dress; and the man of sense laughs at it, at the same time he knows he must not neglect it.
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Our own self-love draws a thick veil between us and our faults.
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Let your enemies be disarmed by the gentleness of your manner, but at the same time let them feel, the steadiness of your resentment.
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There is a sort of veteran woman of condition, who, having lived always in the grand monde, and having possibly had some gallantries, together with the experience of five and twenty or thirty years, form a young fellow better than all the rules that can be given him. Wherever you go, make some of those women your friends; which a very little matter will do. Ask their advice, tell them your doubts or difficulties as to your behavior; but take great care not to drop one word of their experience; for experience implies age, and the suspicion of age, no woman, let her be ever so old, ever forgives.
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Honest error is to be pitied, not ridiculed.
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When a person is in fashion, all they do is right.
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As fathers commonly go, it is seldom a misfortune to be fatherless; and considering the general run of sons, as seldom a misfortune to be childless.
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Firmness of purpose is one of the most necessary sinews of character, and one of the best instruments of success. Without it genius wastes its efforts in a maze of inconsistencies.
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Women who are either indisputably beautiful, or indisputably ugly, are best flattered upon the score of their understandings; but those who are in a state of mediocrity are best flattered upon their beauty, or at least their graces: for every woman who is not absolutely ugly, thinks herself handsome.
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Little, vicious minds abound with anger and revenge, and are incapable of feeling the pleasure of forgiving their enemies.
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Wrongs are often forgiven, but contempt never is. Our pride remembers it forever. It implies a discovery of weakness, which we are more careful to conceal than a crime. Many a man will confess his crimes to a friend; but I never knew a man that would tell his silly weaknesses to his most intimate one.
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Most people enjoy the inferiority of their best friends.
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Horse-play, romping, frequent and loud fits of laughter, jokes, and indiscriminate familiarity, will sink both merit and knowledge into a degree of contempt. They compose at most a merry fellow; and a merry fellow was never yet a respectable man.
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A constant smirk upon the face, and a whiffing activity of the body, are strong indications of futility.
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Great merit, or great failings, will make you respected or despised; but trifles, little attentions, mere nothings, either done or neglected, will make you either liked or disliked in the general run of the world.
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Whoever is admitted or sought for, in company, upon any other account than that of his merit and manners, is never respected there, but only made use of. We will have such-a-one, for he sings prettily; we will invite such-a-one to a ball, for he dances well; we will have such-a-one at supper, for he is always joking and laughing; we will ask another because he plays deep at all games, or because he can drink a great deal. These are all vilifying distinctions, mortifying preferences, and exclude all ideas of esteem and regard. Whoever is had (as it is called) in company for the sake of any one thing singly, is singly that thing, and will never be considered in any other light; consequently never respected, let his merits be what they will.
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Men, as well as women, are much oftener led by their hearts than by their understandings.
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I am convinced that a light supper, a good night's sleep, and a fine morning, have sometimes made a hero of the same man, who, by an indigestion, a restless night, and rainy morning, would have proved a coward.
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History is but a confused heap of facts.
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I look upon indolence as a sort of suicide; for the man is effectually destroyed, though the appetites of the brute may survive.
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Inferiority is what you enjoy in your best friends.
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There is nothing that people bear more impatiently, or forgive less, than contempt: and an injury is much sooner forgotten than an insult.
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If ever a man and his wife, or a man and his mistress, who pass nights as well as days together, absolutely lay aside all good breeding, their intimacy will soon degenerate into a coarse familiarity, infallibly productive of contempt or disgust.
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Knowledge may give weight, but accomplishments give luster, and many more people see than weigh.
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Knowledge of the world in only to be acquired in the world, and not in a closet.
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Learning is acquired by reading books, but the much more necessary learning, the knowledge of the world, is only to be acquired by reading men, and studying all the various facets of them.
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Frequent and loud laughter is the characteristic of folly and ill manners.
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Observe it, the vulgar often laugh, but never smile, whereas well-bred people often smile, and seldom or never laugh. A witty thing never excited laughter, it pleases only the mind and never distorts the countenance.
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In my mind, there is nothing so illiberal, and so ill-bred, as audible laughter.
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Wear your learning like a watch and do not pull it out merely to show you have it. If you are asked for the time, tell it; but do not proclaim it hourly unasked.
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One should always think of what one is about: when one is learning, one should not think of play: and when one is at play, one should not think of one's learning.
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Never seem wiser, nor more learned, than the people you are with. Wear your learning, like your watch, in a private pocket: and do not merely pull it out and strike it; merely to show that you have one.
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Politeness is as much concerned in answering letters within a reasonable time, as it is in returning a bow, immediately.
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Speak of the moderns without contempt, and of the ancients without idolatry.
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A man's own good breeding is the best security against other people's ill manners.
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Manners must adorn knowledge, and smooth its way through the world.
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Prepare yourself for the world, as the athletes used to do for their exercise; oil your mind and your manners, to give them the necessary suppleness and flexibility; strength alone will not do.
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Ceremony is necessary as the outwork and defense of manners.
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A man of sense only trifles with them, plays with them, humors and flatters them, as he does with a sprightly and forward child; but he neither consults them about, nor trusts them with, serious matters.
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I find, by experience, that the mind and the body are more than married, for they are most intimately united; and when one suffers, the other sympathizes.
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A weak mind is like a microscope, which magnifies trifling things, but cannot receive great ones.
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Modesty is the only sure bait when you angle for praise.
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Patience is the most necessary quality for business, many a man would rather you heard his story than grant his request.
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Aim at perfection in everything, though in most things it is unattainable. However, they who aim at it, and persevere, will come much nearer to it than those whose laziness and despondency make them give it up as unattainable.
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Persist and persevere, and you will find most things that are attainable, possible.
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If you would convince others, seem open to conviction yourself.
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He makes people pleased with him by making them first pleased with themselves.
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Pleasure is a necessary reciprocal. No one feels, who does not at the same time give it. To be pleased, one must please. What pleases you in others, will in general please them in you.
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Our prejudices are our mistresses; reason is at best our wife, very often heard indeed, but seldom minded.
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Know the true value of time; snatch, seize, and enjoy every moment of it. No idleness, no delay, no procrastination; never put off till tomorrow what you can do today.
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If you can once engage people's pride, love, pity, ambition (or whatever is their prevailing passion) on your side, you need not fear what their reason can do against you.
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Lord Tyrawley and I have been dead these two years, but we don't choose to have it known.
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It is commonly said that ridicule is the best test of truth; for that it will not stick where it is not just. I deny it. A truth learned in a certain light, and attacked in certain words, by men of wit and humor, may, and often doth, become ridiculous, at least so far, that the truth is only remembered and repeated for the sake of the ridicule.
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In the case of scandal, as in that of robbery, the receiver is always thought as bad as the thief.
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Most people have ears, but few have judgment; tickle those ears, and depend upon it, you will catch those judgments, such as they are.
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Style is the dress of thoughts; and let them be ever so just, if your style is homely, coarse, and vulgar, they will appear to as much disadvantage, and be as ill received, as your person, though ever so well-proportioned, would if dressed in rags, dirt, and tatters.
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The world can doubtless never be well known by theory: practice is absolutely necessary; but surely it is of great use to a young man, before he sets out for that country, full of mazes, windings, and turnings, to have at least a general map of it, made by some experienced traveler.
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The less one has to do, the less time one finds to do it in.
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Take care in your minutes, and the hours will take care of themselves.
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I recommend you to take care of the minutes, for the hours will take care of themselves.
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Let them show me a cottage where there are not the same vices of which they accuse the courts.
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Vice, in its true light, is so deformed, that it shocks us at first sight; and would hardly ever seduce us, if it did not at first wear the mask of some virtue.
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Wit is so shining a quality that everybody admires it; most people aim at it, all people fear it, and few love it unless in themselves. A man must have a good share of wit himself to endure a great share of it in another.
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A wise man will live as much within his wit as within his income.
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The more one works, the more willing one is to work.
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The world is a country which nobody ever yet knew by description; one must travel through it one's self to be acquainted with it.
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Whatever is worth doing at all is worth doing well.
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Young men are apt to think themselves wise enough, as drunken men are apt to think themselves sober enough.
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Chesterfield, Lord

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